It is interesting that Ash Wednesday falls on Valentines Day this year. And my guess is that many more people will be aware of Valentines Day rather than Ash Wednesday! Valentines Day never seemed to be a big deal when I was growing up…more of an American, rather than Australian celebration, but we have embraced it more and more over the last decades. As someone noted…
Romance is alive and well with NAB data showing Australians spent more than $849 million at restaurants, jewellers and florists during the 2023 Valentine’s Day celebrations – up 7% on 2022. Despite cost-of-living challenges, Australians seem happy to shell out on their nearest and dearest.
Balloon hearts are big along with flowers on Valentines Day…an outward show perhaps of love. But the outwards show means nothing if there is not real love and commitment in one’s heart…interesting this aligns with our reading from Joel today…
Rend your heart, not your garments say’s the prophet Joel as he appeals to God’s people to turn him in repentance. The day of the Lord is coming he declares, but it is not too late to turn to him. For he loves you and longs to shower you with grain and new wine and olive oil…enough to satisfy you fully. This chapter ends with the promised outpouring of God’s spirit and the saving of all who calls on the name of the Lord.
It is a message so many need to hear…but in our world today it is a message that largely falls on deaf ears. But we can hear it again for ourselves and turn to God and worship him and love him with all our heart, soul, mind and strength.
It is our heart that we need to ‘rend’ says Joel. If our heart is not in love with God and his son Jesus Christ, then it is no good just going through the motions with just our wills. Rend means to tear apart…the Jewish people had a custom of tearing their clothes as a sign of repentance…but Joel says it’s not about the outward appearance it’s about what we do in our hearts.
I found a couple of reflections written by others for this Ash Wednesday/ Valentines Day that are a helpful way of putting them together…
A reflection by Joe Kay, Sojourners
On the surface, the confluence of Valentines Day and Ash Wednesday seems to produce an odd and uncomfortable couple, but it’s fitting to have one day of celebrating love in all its forms while also recognizing our mortality.
Love and dust? There’s no better pairing.
The ashes remind us that this phase of life is limited. We lose sight of how much each day is a precious gift. We fail to see the many possibilities for gratitude, celebration, and love that are present in each day. The hearts remind us that love creates us, animates us, and sustains us through our limited days. Love gives us this day and all its possibilities. Love is for everyone we can touch in some way, even strangers a half a world away. Together, the ashes and hearts remind us that we’ve got to decide how we’ll use today. Will we bring more division, pain, and indifference into our world? Or will we choose to do all that we can to make the world more as God would have it? We all must choose.
Lent sharpens our focus on what matters. It challenges us to get re-grounded and find creative ways to bring healing and love to others, especially the marginalized and the needy and the victims of injustice and abuse. Lent prompts us to examine what’s getting in the way of giving and receiving love in our lives. It calls out the insecurities and fears that form walls. It challenges our prejudices and our selfishness.
Above all, it forces us to see injustices and do something about them; to recognize those who are hurting and find a way to help heal them; to reach out to the outcasts and the refugees and embrace them.
We mustn’t waste the daily chances that God provides to make a difference.
Ultimately, Lent encourages us to forge a trail of love through our daily dustiness and to transform our ashy selves with creative acts of kindness and compassion. It reminds us that we are physical beings for now – formed in the elements of stardust – but we’ll always be animated by a breath of life and love that wants to guide us.
So, let’s heed the Valentine/Ash Wednesday reminders. And let’s pray for the faith and the courage to live each day boldly, kindly, and joyfully right up to the day when we exchange our heartbeat for a deeper place in God’s heart, which is love.
Another person writes this…
A reflection by Juliet Vedral, Sojourners
What Lent teaches us about real love
I love that Valentine’s Day falls on Ash Wednesday this year. Valentine’s Day – that bane to single people and the unsentimental, the feast day of our culture’s obsession with love and romance – is momentarily subverted by a reminder of what love really looks like: self-denial and commitment. Ash Wednesday in many ways is one of the most passionate and powerful expressions of love – God’s love for us, and our love for God.
Ash Wednesday and Lent, the season of reflection and preparation for Easter, take love to a whole new level. Lent is a season of self-denial, a pushing away of distractions that keep us from enjoying our First Love. My priest likes to say, when imposing ashes, “Remember that you are dust, and unto dust you shall return – and remember that you are beloved.” In other words, life is short, and too often our priorities are completely jacked up. And though Lent is a time to mourn the ways we forget God, it is also a time to remember that we are still beloved.
In our human relationships, we would do well to remember the brevity and brutality of life. We won’t always have time to say “I love you” before our beloved can never hear it again. We can “stay connected” and always want to make time, but never quite get around to it; we can forget our partners in the tyranny of the urgent, or in the demands of parenthood; we can lose our loved ones far sooner than any of us anticipate.
Valentine’s Day does a great job at communicating love for one day, but it lacks the impetus or mechanism to help us do the hard work of love. And one thing required for the hard work of love is a repudiation of the very things that keep us from loving well. Ash Wednesday, with its accompanying fast, is that repudiation.
Falling in love makes you reprioritize your life. In those first blushes and crushes of human love, we can get butterflies in the pit of our stomachs; we forget to eat or lose our appetites. We can put off good things or even tasks that once seemed necessary and absolute because we cannot tear ourselves away from the object of our affection (eventually, my now-husband and I would go on grocery dates because we really needed food, but we also wanted to be together). We go into “hibernation” when we first fall in love, spending as much time with our beloved as we can.
When our beloved is God, Lent can be that hibernation period to fall in love all over again. God responds to the sin that keeps us from divine relationship, not by punishing us or withdrawing from us, but by wooing us away from other, lesser gods and back to the lover of our souls.
We even receive a special gift on Ash Wednesday. The ashes imposed on our foreheads are a sign of repentance and mourning, showing the severity with which we take our falling short. We are not supposed to display our fasting and repentance in a pious way, but we’re also not supposed to wash them off.
To me, those ashes are a mark and reminder, as deep and personal as jewellery or flowers. Those ashes show that we are loved, and that our beloved’s commitment to us is constant and true, even when we are not. They show that divine Love is not just about feelings or sentiments, but about death to everything that hinders it.
The ashes remind us that the heart of love is laying down one’s rights and one’s life for our beloved. When we first fall in love, we easily let go of things we held dear and thought we couldn’t live without, because we have found something greater. I’ve only been married for nine months, but I can already see how the human heart can snap right back into its worst habits and desires as relationships grow comfortable and familiar. Our beloveds don’t need candy or sentimental gestures. They need the passion and commitment that come from love’s first awakening.
It’s because of the tendency to forget our First Love – to rely on emotions and feelings instead of true sacrifice and commitment – that we need Ash Wednesday this Valentine’s Day. In Jesus, God puts aside everything to make us God’s beloved on the cross. This is not a sentimental gesture. It is a whole-hearted, full-throated commitment. Jesus is all in, and Lent is an invitation for us to join him.
For those who observe, may we be willing and able to say yes.
Our Matthew reading today finishes with that well-known line…Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
What do we treasure? Or should I say who do we treasure? People will be telling those they treasure today that they love them…may we remember to tell God we love him everyday and live out that love in the way we live, honouring him.
This lent my prayer is that whether give something up or take something on, that above all we may we rend our hearts before God and allow him to fill and satisfy us with all that we need. May our actions be out of love for God, seeking to glorify his name. May he pour out his Spirit upon us and may we call upon the name of the Lord and be saved. In his name I pray. Amen.